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Proud to be a "Stranger"

The Prophet (saw) once said, "Islam began as something strange, and it will revert to being strange as it was in the beginning, so good tidings for the strangers." Some asked, 'Who are the strangers?' He said, "The ones who break away from their people for the sake of Islam."(Hadith)

There is an incredible lesson in the above Hadith, which we need to repeat to ourselves over and over again. As a 22-year-old Muslim, I find my practice of Islam feeling stranger by the day. There is a norm that we have to live up to in this society, and if we don't meet it, we will be called strangers.

By the norm of society, I wasn't allowed to be alone with myself. I had to be surrounded with friends, or be reading some novel or other, and the music was always blaring in the background. Silence was deafening, and noise was the only peace.

I wonder about this a lot since it affects my faith as well as others. Even though Allah has created mankind and has preferred us, the Prophet still acknowledged that there will come a time when there would be people struggling alone for righteousness.

The realization hit me then, that the tangible wasn't the ultimate reality. I could no longer find any reason, purpose or consolation in good grades, praise, good looks or even friendship. Everything seem to lost its meaning until I seek to understand the words of the Quran. I finally realized that I want to study hard for Allah sake, I want to reunite friendship for Allah sake. I want to smile for Allah sake. I want to do good for Allah sake.

Now as I struggle to maintain my Islam, I find practicing my faith in this world feels strange only so long as I surround myself with worldly things and people. Only when I turn to Allah, I feel the strangeness fade away.

In our time, when immorality is the norm, I guess it's only good then, if we feel connected to the strange.
'Good tidings for the strangers.'

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Why Hijab?

Some Muslim women, at different stages of their lives and at different times after their decision to wear hijab, struggle with it. Not necessarily with the belief that it is obligatory — although some Muslim women may have a problem with that — but with different factors: on the most basic level, come summer, if you aren't careful with the material of your hijab, it's not exactly the most comfortable thing to wear.

And then there's the dealing with the fact that people sometimes treat you differently. But the real killer is all the ranting, the debate, the articles, the speeches, on and on and on about hijab. What's amazing is that usually those talking about it the most are those who don't even wear it.

Hard-line feminists who have decided that women wearing hijab are oppressed have taken it on themselves to make Muslim women take that "hijab thing" off — how else are women going to be respected if they don't take off their clothes? And then the politico-commentators who have tried again and again to convince everyone and anyone who reads opinion pages of newspapers that hijab is actually a "political statement" which "Islamists" use to push their agenda, or whatever.

Now get this: despite all of this fuss, what's really amazing is that Muslim women are still wearing that "hijab thing"! So what is it about hijab? Why are Muslim women still wearing it?

Because Allah commanded them to do so.
It is crucial to note that the first and most important reason that a Muslim women wear hijab is because Allah commanded them to do, as mentioned in Holy Quran:

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Lo! Allah is Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms… [Al Nur 24:31]

O Prophet! Tell your wives and daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks close round them, when they go abroad. That will be better, that so they may be recognized and not annoyed. Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful. [Al Ahzab 33:59]


The first reason for wearing hijab is that it is a command from Allah. The ruling of hijab is highly esteemed among Muslim women, despite the big pressure of the majority in this world to forbid it. In fact, there is wisdom behind this heavenly command of hijab. But before we get into that, let us first define the hijab.

Defination of hijab
Complete hijab also includes the moral conduct, behavior, attitude, and intention of the individual. A person only fulfilling the criteria of hijab of the clothes is observing hijab in a limited sense. Hijab of the clothes should be accompanied by hijab of the eyes, the heart, the thought, and the intention. It also includes the way a person walks, talks, and behaves. Hijab as a mere dress does not have the same rank of importance as manners and behaviors have.

History
Up until the end of the nineteenth century, ladies in America used to put on some kind of head gear, if not a cover for the whole hair. People used to look with embarrassment to any woman going out to the street without her hat! This is quite in conformity with the Biblical injunction for the women to cover their heads. Mini skirts only appeared recently together with the secular and atheist style of life that some people choose themselves.

Other Religion
In Christianity for example, nuns cannot show up without their hijab. Also, regular ladies wear it while attending masses, which is a reflection of self-admission that God wants to see them this way. In Judaism, the Jews also have their strict rules about covering women’s bodies.

Whereas, when it comes to Islam, all voices seem to come against the idea itself. However it is interesting to note that the very same people who find fault with the Islamic dress code for women do not find any thing improper in the dress of nuns. It is evident that the “hijab” of Mother Teresa did not prevent her from social work. And the western world honored her with the Nobel Prize! But the same people would argue that the hijab is a hindrance for a Muslim girl in a school or for a Muslim lady working as a cashier in a super market. This is the kind of hypocrisy or double standards which paradoxically some “sophisticated” people find fashionable.

Secular Cultures
Even in these times, people pay more respect to the more modestly dressed ladies, than to the scantily clad ones. Imagine a lady prime minister or a queen wearing a low-cut blouse or a miniskirt in an international conference! Can she command as much respect there as she would get if she were in more modest attire? Even in secular societies, some women judges have to cover their heads, during sessions, as a way to show their dignity and self-respect. It is that in the Islamic culture - like many other cultures - the idea of women's respectability and virtue is related, among other things, to the propriety of their dress.

The Quran was revealed for all times, and though circumstances change, human nature does not. The fact is that men do like to look at women’s bodies, so a woman who covers herself is more likely to be respected as a person than looked upon as a piece of meat! Women knew that men look at them. Otherwise, why would they spend millions of dollars every year to style, color, and treat their hair?

Is Hijab an oppression?
As mentioned before, many Muslim women around the world wear the hijab out of choice. An oppression occurs, only if someone forces a woman to wear it. On another note, semi-nudity can also be an oppression, if someone forces a woman to adopt that style. If women in the west - or east - have the freedom to dress as they please, why not allow the Muslim women to prefer a more modest dress?

Hijab Prevents Molestation
Hijab enables women to be recognized as modest women and this will also protect them from being molested. Suppose there is a hooligan who is waiting to tease a girl. Whom will he tease? A girl wearing hijab, or the one wearing a mini skirt? Hijab does not degrade a woman but protects her modesty and chastity.

Hijab Uplift Women
Woman’s liberalization mostly disguises exploitation of her body, degradation of her soul, and deprivation of her honor. Non-Muslim societies claim to have uplifted women via allowing them to expose their bodies, but on the contrary, this has actually degraded them to mere tools in the hands of pleasure seekers and sex marketers, hidden behind the colorful screen of “art” and “culture.”

Muslim women should be well aware of these facts. They should be aware that hijab protects them from evil glances and evil desires of those who are sick in the heart, as described in the Qur’an. Muslim women must adhere to Allah’s rules and not be persuaded or tempted by the media that opposes hijab or belittles its significance, as those who spread these ideas only desire evil for her, as mentioned in the Holy Quran:

"But the wish of those who follow their lusts is that you should deviate away(from Allah)-far, far away" [Al Nisa’ 4:27]

Does the hijab prevent a woman from performing her day-to-day duties?
For one thing a woman does not normally wear hijab in her own house, so it shouldn’t get in the way when she’s doing housework. If she is working in a factory close to machinery or in a laboratory, for example—she can wear a different style of hijab that doesn’t have dragging ends. Actually loose trousers and a long shirt for instance lets her to bend, lift, or climb steps or ladders more easily, if her work allows that. Such a dress would certainly give her more freedom of movement while protecting her modesty at the same time.

Conclusion
Islam uplifted women, gave them equality, and expects them to maintain their status. The status of women in Islam is often the target of attacks in the secular media. The hijab or the Islamic dress is cited by many as an example of the “subjugation” of women under Islamic law. Yet, the truth is that 1400 years ago, Islam recognized women’s rights in a way that grants them the utmost protection and respect as well, a combination other systems fail to offer. Islam granted them freedom of expression, political participation, business and financial rights, and asked the rest of society to hold them in high esteem and offer them due respect as mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters.

Hijab is the way Islam neutralizes a woman's stereotyped role as a mere female, by inciting the society to deal with her as a human being. No wonder then that the majority of Muslim women refuse to let their go of their hijab and that they insist on keeping their Islamic identity. This is regardless of the consistent unfair criticism and sometimes satire against it. They wear hijab, not only in submission to God's order, but also because their inherent moral code is in full harmony with its philosophy.

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Acknowledgement:
-Holy Quran
-Hadith
-Reading Islam Team


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Do not be sad (Video)

Shaikh A'id al Qarni gave us the following advice in his book "Dont be sad"
Do watch the video posted in this article!



If you are stricken by poverty, others are chained in debt
If you don't have shoes, others have no feet
If you have committed a mistake, correct it
- the doors of repentance ever open!
The fountain of forgiveness is ever rich
So dont be sad, let all bygones be bygones

What is predestined for you, you shall see it happen
Being sad will not change anything
So dont be sad
Sadness spoils your life
So dont be sad
Supplication is your shield
Prayer is your beacon
So dont be sad
Prostration is your means
So dont be sad

See how vast is the Earth, How nice are the gardens and forests
How bright are the stars - all are happy but you are sad
So dont be sad

You have sweet water to drink
- fresh air to breather
- feet to walk with
You sleep safely in your bed
So dont be sad

Every cloud has a silver lining
After long nights come the bright sun
Life will soon give you a smile
So be ready to get it
And dont be sad!

Real life is that spent in happiness
So cross out your sad days from your age!
Peace of mind is the real treasure

Abu Hurayra reported Allah's Messenger said "Look at those who are inferior to you and do not look at those who are superior to you, for that is more likely to keep you from despising Allahs favour on you" (Hadith)

So Brothers & Sisters, there are many who have less than us, and who are going through more than us, let us all sit and reflect and praise and give thanks to Allah for all of the blessings we have, all the good that has been given to us. And let us also remember those who do not have much, in our prayers. Amin.

Brothers and Sisters, DO NOT BE SAD.

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Lessons from Solat

The command for five-times daily prayers(solat) was revealed straight to the hands of our Prophet SAW by Allah, instead of going through the angel Jibril like any other divine revelations. This shows the gravity of the command of Allah regarding prayers.

Islam is not all about ritualistic practices(ibadah). Every ibadah commanded to us has nurturing values; it moulds us into a better person, should we carry it out properly.

Solat, for instance, is not about standing and bowing; solat has all the ingredients to make us a successful human being, as promised by Allah:

“Victorious shall the believers be; those who in their prayers humble themselves.” (Al Mukminun 23:1-2)

Solat teaches us to extricate ourselves from the mundane everyday things, and humbly face the Almighty. When we perform solat with full concentration, we actually train ourselves to concentrate and focus our mind on the majesty of Allah.

Such quality is also needed beyond the five daily prayers. In order for us to be successful, we need a high level of focus and dedication in whatever we do. Imagine the life of a person who is not focused or dedicated; everything he does will either end up unfinished, or a product of low quality.

To show the importance of focus and dedication towards a course, Allah said:

“Allah has not made for any man two hearts in his body.” (Al Ahzab 33:4)

Granted, there are many responsibilities and obligations that await us, always competing for our undivided attention; our family, our job, our studies, our community, our country, and many others. To accomplish all this, we need proper planning, and a strong dedication to execute our duties well.

Look, at how solat can mould us to be an effective and productive Muslim. By applying the qualities needed in daily prayers in our everyday life, will mould us into a person of strong focus and high dedication. And there is also the added reward of Allah’s pleasure, as said by our Prophet:

“Verily, the kind of acts loved most by Allah, are those that are done with dedication.” (Hadith)

Other than humility and focus, in solat also lies another ingredient for success and victory, as told by the Almighty:

“And those whose prayers are strictly guarded.” (Al Mukminum 23:9)

A successful believer would guard his solat, by performing it when it is due. And therein lies the lesson of time management.

Time management requires discipline, and all successful people are highly disciplined. A smart, successful Muslim would be disciplined too: he would be punctual when meeting his clients, for instance. And all his free time will not be wasted on mundane affairs.

Time is gold. It is so important for us to make the most out of it, that Allah has sent down one whole chapter about time in the Quran:

“By Time, Verily Man is in loss; except for those who have faith and do good deeds; and enjoin in the mutual teaching of Truth, and of Patience.” (Al Asr 103:1-3)

How true, that one of the ingredients in the recipe of success is to observe time. And let us all take solat as our practice in keeping time.

I would summarise today’s sharing in two points:
1. Solat teaches us focus and dedication in performing our tasks and
2. Solat also teaches us to manage our time and make full use of it and filling it with beneficial activities

Surely there are many other values that could be learnt just by observing our solat on top of the two points above. For that, let us all perform our solat, and seek to understand its importance, meanings and lessons.

Hopefully with our deep understanding about our ibadah, may we be more diligent in performing our daily solat and other ibadah, and with it InsyaAllah, we will become better Muslims who are successful in all spheres of life, as well as able to bring benefits and blessings to all.

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Acknowledgement:
-Holy Quran
-Hadith
-Khutbah Friday Prayers
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Ihsan, the pursuit of excellence

Aristotle once said, "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." Muhammad Ali, the famous boxer, also said, "When a man says I cannot, he has made a suggestion to himself. He has weakened his power of accomplishing that which otherwise would have been accomplished."

Islam promotes excellence and teaches us how to be excellent in every aspect of our lives. Our religion, our way of life, is composed of three main parts:
(1) Iman
(2) Islam
(3) Ihsan

To discuss Ihsan(Excellence), we must briefly go through the first two, Iman(Faith) and Islam (Submission to Allah)

IMAN
Iman or faith must be mentioned as the first part of our deen because it serves as our roots. For many years of the Prophethood of Muhammad, Allah revealed nothing except the concept of Taqwa (God consciousness), Ikhlas (sincerity) and Iman (faith). It was not until the hearts of the first Muslims became saturated and strong with true Iman did Allah (swt) begin introducing the next concept - Islam, to the Muslims.

ISLAM
After our roots are firmly in place and take hold within the rich soil of Iman and that is watered and nourished continually, we can begin understanding and encouraging the practice of Islam(such as prayers, fasting, submission to the will of Allah, etc). This Islam, or submission, is like the trunk of the tree, sturdy, reaching up to heights. Muslim children are not required to pray until they are 7. Why? Because these first seven years are to be used by parents to plant the seed of Iman and help this seed to grow strong roots by teaching their children about Allah (swt), about paradise, about the miracles and the angels and preparing them to have a strong, balanced character. The "rules" of Islam come more easily to those who have prepared their hearts with Iman.

IHSAN
Ihsan, which means excellence in belief is the neglected 1/3 of our deen. It is to believe in God Almighty without the slightest speck of doubt. "Ihsan is the fruit that blossoms from our planted trees and shows up when the roots are strong and nourished, free from disease and harmful insects." If we fail to nourish our Ihsan, we will bear no fruit and our soul will die. Ihsan is our lost treasure that we must unearth and revive.

Ihsan, what does it mean? The answer was provided by the Messenger of Allah saws when he said:
"Ihsan is to worship Allah as if you see Him. And even though you do not see Him, He sees you!” (Hadith)

Ihsan cannot be summed up prettily in one English word or phrase. Ihsan is excellence. It is perfection. It is beauty. It is balance, harmony, discipline, good character, softness, gentleness, improvement, drive, will power. Ihsan is a human reflection, a human attempt to achieve a high level in the areas covered by the many beautiful names of Allah.

"Is there any reward for Ihsan except Ihsan?" (Al Rahman 55:60)

Those who realize the value of ihsan, who reach and strive and work for Ihsan, who nourish their roots and groom their trunk in order to bear plentiful, amazing fruits will be rewarded with Allah's form of Ihsan - (1)the sweetness of faith, (2)success in the world, and (3)the ultimate success in the Hereafter, which is Paradise. Indeed, Ihsan attracts such a high position before Allah.

So how does this relate to us right here, right now? Whether we're in high school, college, or grad students. Whether we're young people or old people in the workforce. Whether we're newly married, engaged, or waiting our turn. Whether we're brothers and sisters and aunts, uncles, cousins, and children. The question lies: What does Ihsan mean in our lives?

It means that every day, when you're in a boring class and get handed an assignment for a 15 page paper or you're studying about for a final exam, or you get a huge project from your boss, or your mom asks you to make dinner or clean your room or your brother or sister asks for help with homework or to play with you outside - you stop the immediate negative reaction that we've been trained to play over and over again when it comes to these sorts of things, and do the right thing, which is to remain positive.

We stop, and we realize that this is our opportunity for Ihsan. That this is another opportunity for us to make our intentions for Allah, to please Him. That this is a chance for us to add something to our Life's Book that Allah will open on the Day of Judgment and look upon us with joy and be proud of us. For, as Professor Yusuf al-Qaradawi had mentioned,

Allah loves when one of you is given a task, that he or she does it in the most excellent manner.

Sheikh al-Qaradawi didn't say that Allah "likes" when you do things with Ihsan. He didn't say that Allah thinks it's "ok" or "cool" or "alright." One of the greatest scholars of Islam says that Allah "LOVES" when we do things with Ihsan. Allah LOVES. Think about that for just a second and let it sink in. Think about the last time someone you respected/admired told you that they loved something you did. How did that make you feel? You were beaming for days, most likely. You remembered what they said and how they reacted and you kept replaying it in your head again and again. Imagine then, how amazing it would feel to do something that Allah LOVES.

Imagine standing in front of Allah on the Day of Judgment and having Him tell you all the things that you did that He LOVED. Imagine how you would feel.

So when you have a test or a paper or you have to do housework or you are going to the gym or playing football, do it with Ihsan! Don't just "be," don't just get by, don't just pass. Be EXCELLENT, strive for PERFECTION, be the BEST in your class, show the world how Islam inspires you to attain Ihsan!

We are given just a few moments in this world. Each breath is a priceless jewel and when it passes it never returns. Make this moment, this breath, this heart beat one that resounds with Ihsan, the pursuit of excellence!

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Acknowledgement:
-Quran
-Hadith
-UCLA Sister Halaqa
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There is Good in Every Event

Every events that happen to a Muslim has a sort of goodness in it. Even if the events seem so much unfavourable and unbearable. Those who overcome such ordeals will recognise their weakness before Allah and reconsider how much they are in need of Him. They will turn to Allah with much humility through prayers and rememberence.

"It may well be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed a lot of good" (An-Nissa 4:19)

"It may be that you hate something when it is good for you and it may be that you love something when it is bad for you. Allah knows and you know not." (Al Baqarah 2:216)


A believer believes that Allah created the world to test mankind. As an inherent part of this examination, God test man sometimes with blessings and at other times with hardships. People who do not evaluate events in the light of the Quran, fail to give the appropriate intepretation to events, and become downhearted and fall into hopelessness.

A servant of God can have no real faith unless he believes in fate with its good and evil sides and knows that he cannot prevent anything that befalls him (good or evil) and he cannot catch anything that escapes from him (good or evil) [Hadith]

A believers believe that even if he can not eliminate the problem, he knows that Allah keep everything under His control. For this reason, he is content with Allah no matter what situation he encounters, he believe in His eternal compassion and mercy and put his trust in him. If Allah does not answer his call immediately, he certainly knows a greater goodness and beauty are hidden in this.
Believers have faith in fate and they know that the fate Allah creates is the best for them.

"So verily, with every difficulty there is relief. Verily, with every difficulty, there is relief." (Surah Al-Insyirah 94:5-6)

Nevertheless it does NOT mean that one "does not need to do anything and surrender his life to nothing". A point mentioned in the Quran about putting tust in Allah is talking measures. The Prophet Jacob advised his son to take measures while entering the city but afterwards he reminded them to place trust in Allah

"He said, "My sons! You must not enter through a single gate. Go in through different gates. But I cannot save you from Allah at all, for judgement comes from no one but Allah. In Him I put my trust, and let all those who put their trust, put it in Him Alone." (Surah Yusuf 12:67)

As seen in the words of the Prophet Jacob, believers take precautions, but they know they cannot change what God has willed for them. One example is that a student study hard to become a doctor. However even after all the hard work, he still didnt manage to become a doctor. Yet he should not be depressed. Perhaps there are much better jobs out there for him, such as teacher. And Allah knows best.

"Nothing occurs in the earth or in you, but as inscribed in the Book of Decree before We make it happen. That is easy for Allah. In order that you will not be grieved about the things that pass you by nor exult about the things that comes to you. God does not like any vain or boastful man" (Surah Al Hadid:22-23)

Life is a test, but just because Allah knows which way you are going to choose to take, that does not mean that He causes you to choose that path. For Allah created us with free will. And it is precisely because we were created with free will that life is a test.

Also it is important to take note that Allah, the Merciful, Compassionate and Just, creates ease in everything and test people within the limits of their strengths, as mentioned in many verse of the Holy Quran:

"No burden do We place on any soul, but that which it can bear." (Surah Al-An'am 6:152)
"No burden do We place on any soul, but that which it can bear." (Surah Al-A'raf 7:42)
"On no soul do We place a burden greater than it can bear.(Surah Al-Muminun 23:62)

When a painful situation occurs, my heart may ache badly, and tears may flow. But nevertheless, I will constantly bear in patience with a smile. This is the Islam way of life. =)

"Wondrous are the believers's affairs. For him there is good in all his affairs, and this is so ONLY for the believer. When something pleasing happens to him, he is grateful, and that is good for him; and when something displeasing happens to him, he is patient, and that is good for him." [Hadith Muslim]

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Acknowledgement:
-Holy Quran
-Hadith
-Harun Yahya

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Do not expect Gratitude from Anyone

Are you dismayed when you find that others forget your favours or disregard your kind acts? Some people might even despise you and make you an enemy for no other reasons than that you have shown them kindness.The characteristic of ingratitude is indeed widespread among human beings.

And they could not find any cause to bear a grudge, except that Allah and His Messenger had enriched them of His Bounty (Al-Tawbah 9:74)

On a side note:
From personal experience, during our school days, Im sure that sometimes you can sense that there was personal jealousy against yourself by a group of people. They just simply hate the fact that you can continously smile even though they make fun of you, or the fact that you more popular in class, or maybe simply that you can understand a particular subject better. Ironically, when we still wish to be friends with them or when we just brushed their mockery away, its seems as if they became more angry and jealous!
Nevertheless as a Muslim, I always tried my best to requite their bad actions with a good one. That's because I value friendship alot.

"A good action and a bad action are not the same. Requite the bad with something better and, if there is enmity between you and someone else, he will become like a bosom friend! (Fussilat 41:34)

InsyaAllah, we can remain as friends, and not enemies yeah. Amin2!

Coming back to the topic:
It is common for us to hear the story of a mother and her son which repeat throughout history: The mother raised her son, fed him, clothed him, and taught him; she would stay at nights so that her son could sleep, stay hungry so that her son could eat, and toil so that her son could feel comfort. And when the son become older and stronger, he rewarded her mother with disobedience, disrespect and contempt.

Be at peace if you are requited with ungratefulness from your "friend", for the good you have done. This is NOT to say that you should refrain from performing acts of kindness towards others; the point is that you should be mentally prepared for ingratitude. Afterall, the ungrateful person cannot really harm you.

"We feed you for the sake of Allah alone: No reward do we desire from you, nor thanks. (Al-Insan 76:9)

The solution: Performs acts of charity seeking solely for Allah's pleasure. Surely Allah will reward you for your good deeds and intentions.

"And when harm touches a person, he invokes Allah, lying down on his side or sitting or standing. But when We have removed his harm from him, he passes on his way as if he had never invoked Allah for a harm that touched him!" (Yunus 10:12)

Hence, do not be in a state of agitation if you gives someone a pen as a gift and he or she uses it to satirize you, or if you give someone a walking stick to lean upon and he strikes you with it.
Most human beings are ungrateful to their Lord, so what kind of treatment should you and I expect.

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(Editor's note: Read the article about "Friendship in Islam" to understand the true value of friendship)

Acknowledgement:
-Holy Quran
-Sheikh `A'id Abdullah Al-Qarni in his book, Do not Be Sad
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